So you’ve met your dream partner and you’re over the moon because you have found someone who shares your interests, who you can talk to about everything and who takes you as you are. So far, so good. But lately there’s been an annoying jealous feeling that sometimes creeps into the picture, even though you have no reason not to trust your partner. Don’t worry, it’s perfectly normal! We’ve put together some tips for you to help you keep these jealous, niggling feelings in check….
Why do we feel jealous anyway?
But first, a brief digression: Jealousy arises because we’re afraid that someone we care about is no longer as interested in us as they were initially or will turn away or reject us. It’s understandable then that these negative and jealous feelings arise and that we blame our partner for making us feel this way. But to prevent this from happening in the first place, we’ve compiled five helpful tips for you to keep your relationship plain-sailing.
Tip 1: Dealing with it consciously
It’s super important that you don’t suppress that annoying feeling. Because honestly: It can be very attractive to do just that. You better admit your feelings. So you can deal with it much better because you simply understand what bothers you better. During a potential conversation with your partner, you can communicate this clearly.
Tip 2: Talk about it
Tip 1 leads us to the second tip: If you feel jealous because your partner has behaved in such a way several times that it has disturbed or hurt you, it is important to talk to him/her openly about it. It’s best to try to have a casual conversation first, talk to him/her without immediately making accusations and accusations. It is quite possible that the other person was not aware that his/her behavior hurt you and did not think anything of it. In an honest conversation, you will definitely find a solution.
Tip 3: You may, you may!
You have to know that you MAY be jealous. It’s normal and human, and you don’t have to be embarrassed or hide it. We usually associate something negative with it, but look at it this way: A pinch of jealousy can even spice up your relationship a bit! Then your partner realizes that he is important to you and feels confirmed. Conversely, it’s flattering to you if your partner gets a little jealous, isn’t it?
Tip 4: Trust
A relationship, of course, depends on whether you trust each other or not. You should also talk to your partner about your jealousy because this way you can get rid of your insecurities and fully trust your relationship again. If you can trust your partner completely, even annoying jealousies will surely subside over time. Because you know where you stand!
Tip 5: Trust your gut feeling
As already mentioned, a little jealousy can even do something good for your relationship. However, you should be careful not to make her a constant companion, because that would be a clear sign that something is going wrong. So if you have permanent reasons to mistrust your partner, you should not ignore your gut feeling. If you are still bothered by his/her behavior even after an open discussion about it, this could be an occasion to reconsider the relationship.