What is considered appropriate and polite behavior in dating is quite culture and country specific. But how do you avoid making cultural dating faux pas’s or know what the best dating etiquette is? Jaumo wants to help people meet and get to know new people all over the world and overcome these barriers. Here Jaumo has compiled the key dating rules to know and follow from country to country to guarantee dating success all over the world!
If you have a date with a Brazilian, be prepared to receive a lot of compliments! When it comes to dating Brazilian women, Non-Brazilians (a.k.a. “gringos”) should, refrain from too much flattery. This might result in a quick flirt but it won’t get you much past the first date. Public displays affection when you’re in a relationship are very common in Brazil. Likewise, the family is an important element that weaves across all aspects of daily life. So whilst in many other cultures, getting to know the family of a partner signal that the relationship is serious, it is quite normal in Brazil to get to know the family shortly after a first date.
America has quite clear dating rules. The most important thing is not to engage in sex whilst under the influence of alcohol. This isn’t seen as sexy and most crucially can quickly have criminal consequences. If someone is in the dating game, it is normal to dating multiple people at once. As long as a couple has not agreed to “exclusively” date, it’s fair game and you are not committed to an official relationship. On the first date, the man usually pays for the evening. Also of note is that many Americans wait to get married before having sex. If this is not the case, there’s a three date rule when sleeping together is ‘acceptable’ in the dating world. If this doesn’t happen then it’s likely that there’s no chemistry or interest to pursue things further past the third or fourth date.
In the Netherlands, equality is self-evident and this is also reflected in their dating rules. If a woman likes a man then it is quite normal for her to ask him out on a date.. The dress-code for a first date (in a country of enthusiastic bicycle culture) is rather casual and at the end of the date, couples will usually split the bill.
In France, the french take dating to another level and are in principle very direct. A kiss means from now on you are a couple. However there aren’t any rules when it comes to deciding when to sleep with someone – it comes down to personal feeling. Equally, there are no rules on how long you should wait for a date with a call. If a man is interested in a French woman, he will typically ask her out on a date. There is a high chance that she will refuse,but this is a common dating behaviour to check to see if the man is serious about the date or not. If the man is serious then he should ask the woman out again. If you want to end a relationship or the date in France then you should say this very clearly.. Simply not calling, is not enough in France.
Japanese culture has many rules of etiquette and courtesy and the same applies to dating. Many Japanese people attach great importance to punctuality, so you should never be late to a date. A relationship in Japan develops very slowly; first you meet in groups with friends and if you are really interested in each other then dating will develop naturally. Interesting there is not expression in Japanese for “I like you” only “I love you”. Public displays of affection are not common or widely accepted in Japan (they tend to be much more reserved and private)
In Korea as well, it is important to avoid affection in public (holding hands is ok). Splitting the bill when you are out for a meal with friends is the norm. But on a date the bill is usually all paid for by one person. Typically this used to be the man but as the role and working and earning power of women has increased, it is becoming increasingly common for women to pay for a date as well. In a relationship, the months or years for anniversaries are not celebrated or counted. Instead units at intervals of 100 days are the way people track how long they have been in a relationship or seeing someone.
In Australia there are really no rules when it comes to dating. Often a date will develop from a friendship and it is not unusual for a relationship to arise when a person has been dating multiple people. When it comes to deciding when to sleep with someone, again there are no rules. Both men and women make the first step to start up a conversation or ask someone out on a date. Usually the person who was the person to initiate the date pays the bill, otherwise it will be shared.
Traditional gender roles are still prevalent in Mexico. Men often have a macho attitude, while women are usually expected to play the ‘feminine’ stereotype. Of course, such traditional attitudes and behavior are changing amongst the younger generation. Nevertheless, in Mexico the man in principle asks the woman on a date and then pays for the evening.
Interestingly in Sweden ‘dating’ and going on ‘dates’ are not described in this way. Instead people meet with potential dates, a couple of times to “fika”, a place where they enjoy coffee or tea, pastries or sandwiches in the afternoon. After a few such meetings, other activities like going to the cinema, cooking together or a eating out at a restaurant is planned.
Like Mexico, Russian traditions of dating include very clear male and female roles. Usually, the man will bring a small gift or flowers (with an odd number of flowers) to his date. The dress code on a date is smart and very chic; women usually wear high heels and dress-up. At the end of a date a Russian woman would feel insulted if she was asked to share the bill.